We don't have to go out and spend every minute of every day with a rotating cast of friends. It's about feeling like you are supported in the ways that you want to be supported.

不一定分分钟需要和朋友待在一起，但重要的是，能够以一种舒服的方式感受到支持和力量！

下面有几条小建议供大家参考：

保持积极的沟通

每个人都会有自己工作和生活的步调，但为了避免朋友间的误会，可以把一些事情提前跟朋友说清楚。

Tell your friends how long you expect to be off the radar, how to communicate with you best during this time ("I'm drowning in emails; texts are better!"), and when your schedule is expected to go back to normal.

告诉你的朋友你需要多长时间不被打扰，在此期间最好用什么方式联系你（比如：我有成堆的邮件要回，最好给我发短信！），以及大概什么时候能够回归正常的状态。

如果能把这些细节说给朋友听，你就会发现你们的友情可以维系很长时间。

尽可能少发“我太忙了”

每个人都会有那么一段时间被各种事情填满，但如果只有一句 “我太忙了”，真的很扫兴。

When we hear somebody say, ‘'I'm too busy," we don't actually know if that is true for just their lives at this time, or if that's their way of not really valuing us or wanting to spend time with us.

我们听到有人说“我太忙了”的时候，通常无法判断你是真的很忙，还是说并不珍惜彼此的友谊，乃至一点时间都不愿意付出。

养成仪式感

It might sound like you're not aiming very high if you're only going to see certain friends once a year, but if you have an annual barbecue or Memorial Day party or something, where it's kind of a guarantee you'll see certain friends.

如果说你只是想和一些朋友每年见一次，听起来似乎并不确定。但是如果你们可以有一个年度烧烤或者纪念派对，保证某个时间节点你一定可以见到自己的朋友，这样的安排其实比两个人为什么时候见不断讨论更好一些。

类似这样的方法还有很多，友情是一门艺术，值得我们用一生的时间去探索和经营。