Mind your manners in English/用英语让你有气质 (中英对照 )

看起来会不会像是你说的话会经常引起争执呢？对于表达请求时你感到困扰吗？如果你会有此困扰，或许是别人认为你的英语不够礼貌罢了。藉由这些绝佳指南来让你避免莽撞的言语！

Can you pass me...？与 Give me...
之间-人都不喜欢听其使唤，有时在不引起困扰下是困难的，因此获取你个人的需求 ，利用一些句子来取代命令式的话语，像是「Give me the newspaper」，而请求的句子像是「Can you pass me the newspaper？」

Could you give me five minutes？与 Go away.
之间-你正忙碌于你的工作，但是你的同事需要你的帮忙�当你也在忙碌不能分心的时侯，只说「Go away」绝对是不适当的。可以用使人愉快的句子像是「Could you give me five minutes？」

Excuse me. 与 Move.
之间-告诉某人「Move out of the way」是非常粗鲁的，并且给你负面反应。如果下一次某人对你说：「Excuse me」将会有意想不到的结果是你不会想要与他争执！

I'm afraid I can't. 与 No.
之间-对于表示拒绝一位朋友的邀请常会是很困难的。简单的一句：「No.」将视为是不礼貌的。下一次当你要拒绝某人的邀请，并且避免一些争执你可以这样说：「I'm afraid I can't.」

I would like... 与 I want...
之间-使用「I want」这个字来请求通常被视为是很粗鲁的。你可以这样说：「I want a cup of coffee」，你也可以改口告诉服务生说：「I'd like a cup of coffee, please」。你将同时得到咖啡与微笑的享受！

Would you mind...？ 与 Stop it!
之间-某人做了某些你不喜欢的事情的时候，如果很莽撞呢？你会想要阻止吗？为了获得美好的结果，你可以礼貌性的这样说：「Would you mind not using your phone in the cinema, please？」而非说：「Stop talking on your phone in the cinema!」

Can you hold, please？ 与 Wait.
之间-选择正确的礼貌电话用语在有话题及没话题之间可产生两种不同情况。如果打电话的人要找某人，千万不要说：「Wait」。你可以这样说：「Can you hold, please？」

Does it seem like the things you say often cause offense? Are you having trouble getting people to respond to your requests? If so, maybe people are percieving that your English isn't polite. Learn how to avoid being rude with this great guide!

Can you pass me...? vs Give me...
People do not like being told what to do, so it's sometimes difficult to get what you want without causing frustration. Replace phrases that sound like commands, such as "Give me the newspaper", with a request like "Can you pass me the newspaper?"

Could you give me five minutes? vs Go away.
You're really busy at work, but your coworker needs your help... When you're busy and can't attend to anything else, just saying "Go away" is definitely not appropriate. Instead, keep everyone happy by using the phrase "Could you give me five minutes?"

Excuse me. vs Move.
Telling someone to "Move out of the way" is extremely rude and is likely going to get you a very negative reaction. The next time someone is in your way, saying "Excuse me" will get the result you want without causing offense!

I'm afraid I can't. vs No.
It can often be difficult to decline an invitation from a friend. Simply saying "No" would be considered impolite. The next time you have to refuse an invitation, avoid offense by saying, "I'm afraid I can't."

I would like... vs I want...
It's often considered rude to request something using the words, "I want". Instead of, "I want a cup of coffee", try telling a waiter, "I'd like a cup of coffee, please". You'll get your coffee and a smile, too!

Would you mind...? vs Stop it!
Someone doing something you don't like, and perhaps being rude? Would you like them to stop? To get the desired result, rather than shouting "Stop talking on your phone in the cinema!", ask them politely by saying, "Would you mind not using your phone in the cinema, please?"

Can you hold, please? vs Wait.
Choosing the correct level of politeness on the telephone can mean the difference between a constructive conversation and no conversation at all. If a caller asks to speak with someone else, don't say, "Wait". Instead, politely ask, "Can you hold, please?"