Use a question

使用问题给建议

It’s important to remember that sometimes people will not want to hear advice, or they may require it in a delicate manner rather than being told or ordered. You can do this by making it into a question.

重要的是要记住这一点，有时人们不想听劝告，或者他们可能要求以微妙的方式，而不是被告知或命令。你可以通过把建议以问题的方式来呈现。

Here are some common phrases to do just that:

下面是一些常用的短语：

May I suggest

我可以建议.....吗？

A: I am so frustrated with this book I can’t get anywhere near to the end of it and I have to finish it by Wednesday!

A:我对这本书感到非常失望，我就是读不到结尾，我得在星期三之前读完它！

B: May I suggest that you set yourself a target and try to read a certain amount of pages per day until you reach your target?

B：我能建议你这样做吗？就是给自己定一个目标，每天读一定数量的网页，直到你达到目标为止。

If I may

如果可以的话

A: I just don’t know what to do anymore I’m fed up with my boyfriend, he never calls me anymore. He doesn’t care about me.

我真不知道该怎么办了，我受够了我的男朋友，他再也不打电话给我了。他并不在乎我。

B: If I may, when was the last time you called him?

B：如果可以的话，你能否告诉我，你最后一次打电话给他是什么时候？

Couldn’t you

你不能......吗？

A: I’m panicking, I need to get to London on Wednesday to meet up with my friends. They are all driving there but I don’t have a car!

A：我很紧张，我得在星期三去伦敦见我朋友。他们在那里都开车，但我没有车！

B: Couldn’t you just get a lift with one of them?

B.你不能找其中一个有车的朋友搭便车吗？

Would you consider

你考虑......吗？

A: I don’t know what to do. I keep eating and eating but I want to lose weight! The problem is I am always so hungry!

我不知道该怎么办。我一直在吃啊吃，但我想减肥！问题是我总是那么饿！

B: Would you consider going to the doctor and getting some medical help?

B：你考虑去看医生并得到一些医疗帮助吗？

Wouldn’t it be better

......会不会更好呢？

A: I don’t know whether I should take this new job or stay with my current one. It’s a big opportunity for me but it would mean I would need to move house. I don’t know what I want.

我不知道该不该接受这份新工作，还是留在现在的工作岗位。这对我来说是一个很大的机会，但这意味着我需要搬家。我不知道我想要什么。

B: Wouldn’t it be better if you take some time to see how you feel, rather than make a decision right now?

B：如果你花点时间想想自己的感受，而不是现在就做决定，会不会更好呢？

Shouldn’t you

你难道不该......吗？

A: I’m worried, my son hasn’t called me all morning. He went to a party last night and stayed the night. I want to know he is okay.

我很担心，我儿子整个上午都没给我打电话。他昨晚参加了一个晚会，过了一夜。我想确保他没事。

B: Shouldn’t you give him a few more hours to call you? It’s still early in the morning.

B：你难道不该等他几个小时再打电话给他吗？现在还很早。

Will you

你能......吗？

A: I want to improve my fitness but the gym is so expensive! How can I get fit if I don’t have money?

我想改善我的体型，但是去健身房太贵了！如果我没有钱，我怎样才能成功塑形？

B: Will you just relax? You can go for a run outside any time you want! The best part os that it’s free.

B：你能放松一下吗？你可以随时出去跑步啊！这种方式的最好之处在于它是免费的。

These are very polite ways to give advice and can be used in formal situations as well as informal ones. They might be good ways to approach giving advice to someone that you do not know very well.

这些都是非常礼貌的给出建议的方式，可以在正式场合以及非正式场合使用。当给你不太了解的人提建议时，以上这些短语就是很好的方式。

They could also be useful for giving advice to someone who doesn’t like to be advised or told what to do. The best part is, if they reject your advice, you can say I was only asking.

这些短语同样也可以适用于那些不喜欢被劝告或告诉他们该做什么的人提建议。这些短语的最好之处在于，如果他们拒绝你的建议，你可以说我只是问问而已。

Use an order

使用命令给建议

Using an order can sometimes cut through a problem like a knife through butter. They can make things much simpler rather than asking questions and saying things you don’t really mean. Be careful though, some people might not like being told what to do!

使用命令有时可以很容易地解决一个问题。命令可以使事情简单得多，而不是以问题的方式呈现你并非真实表达的意思。但是要小心，有些人可能不喜欢别人告诉他们做什么！

You should

你应该......

A: What do I do? I want to have more time off work but I know that the money at this job is fantastic.

我该怎么办？我想有更多的休假时间，但我知道这份工作的薪水是诱人的。

B: You should think about what is important to you. Life is short!

B：你应该想想什么对你来说是重要的。生命短暂！

You have to/don’t have to

你得/你不必.....

A: I might not go out tonight, I’m not ready and I am really tired.

A：我今晚可能不出去，我还没准备好，而且我真的很累。

B: You have to go out! We are going to have such a good time!

B：你得出来一起玩！我们将玩得很愉快！

A: Painting is so dumb, I don’t know why I bother even trying. I suck at it!

画画太沉闷了，我不知道为什么我还要费心去尝试。我画画太烂了！

B: You don’t have to be the best artist in the world to enjoy painting! Use it to learn!

B：你不必是世界上最喜欢绘画的艺术家！只是学习一下而已！

You must/mustn’t

你必须/你千万别......

A: I have a huge exam tomorrow, I don’t know if I have studied enough and I’m worried I might fail!

明天我有一场大型考试，我不知道我是否已经复习地差不多了，我担心我可能会不及格！

B: The most important thing is to be focused. You must be focused otherwise you have no chance of succeeding.

B：最重要的是要聚精会神。你必须集中注意力，否则就没有成功的机会。

A: I should have scored today, I had a really good chance and I messed it up.

A：我今天本应该进球，我有一个很好的机会，但我把它搞砸了。

B: You mustn’t keep thinking about it! Just say that next time you will score that chance.

B：你千万别老是想着这件事！保证下次你一定会抓住那种机会就行。

You had better

你最好......

A: Mum, I don’t want to go to school today!

妈妈，我今天不想上学！

B: You had better get dressed and get in the car right now. You’re not staying home.

B：你最好穿上衣服，马上上车。你不能待在家里。

You have got to/haven’t got to

你必须/你不必........

A: I don’t know if I want to go to university, I don’t want to leave home and leave my friends.

我不知道我是否想上大学，我不想离开家，也不想离开我的朋友们。

B: You have got to think of the future! You will make new friends and your other friends will be here waiting for you to visit!

B：你必须为未来考虑！你会结交新的朋友，你的其他朋友也会在这里等着你！

A: I want to go to the party but I am worried that Johnny might be there. I don’t want to see him.

我想去参加聚会，但我担心乔尼可能在那儿。我不想见到他。

B: Well, even if you do see him, you haven’t got to speak to him! Just go!

B：嗯，即使你真的看到他，你也不必和他说话！就去吧！

Think about it

考虑一下吧

A: This job would be great pay, but I really like my boss that I have now.

这份工作薪水很高，但我真的很喜欢我现在的老板。

B: Really? Think about it! Think of what you could do with all that extra cash!

B：真的吗？想想看！想想你能用那些多出来的现金做些什么！

You have to

你必须.......

A: Everything is going wrong, I don’t know what to do and I’m just fed up with life.

一切都不顺利，我不知道该怎么办，我真的厌倦了生活。

B: You have to calm down! Things aren’t that bad!

B：你必须冷静下来！事情没那么糟糕！

Use an order if you are sure and you should probably reserve orders for friends and family. If you tell someone you don’t know very well what they should do then they may get offended even if you are trying to help!

如果你确定的话，可以使用命令提建议。你也许该为朋友和家人储备一些提建议的命令话语。如果你对你并不了解的人说他们应该做什么，那么即使你想帮助他们，他们也会受到冒犯！

Sometimes the truth hurts and people don’t want to hear it!

有时候真相很伤人，人们并不想听！